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Power of Meaning, Pillar of Belonging Part 2: What creates Meaning in our lives?


Purpose and meaning are often referred to together, however, having a purpose is just part of what can create “meaning” in our lives. So how do we define “purpose”?  What does that mean exactly?  How can we become more “purposeful”?  

Emily Smith (The Power of Meaning) states that having a broad purpose helps us deal with the more “menial aspects of life”.  So although we have to spend a lot of our time just doing the mundane tasks of our daily routine, if we have a sense of what is behind that, we will be driven by a stronger sense of meaning and less likely to feel that life, well, is like a treadmill! If we’re not sure why we are doing what we’re doing – it can easily lead into depression.

Purpose needs to be defined. There are two aspects to it:
1) We are working towards a stable and far-reaching goal;
2) Somehow we are contributing to the world, in other words, we have a more meaningful purpose than just to please ourselves.

In order to fully define our purpose, we need to do a lot of self-reflection and have a great deal of self knowledge - because our purpose needs to fit our identity; our sense of who we are, what we value, what our strengths are and what is important to us.

Now don’t misunderstand this. Self knowledge does not come from spending long hours thinking about ourselves. In fact, Dr. Tasha Eurich, in his book “Insight” states that “ the more time the participants in a study spent in introspection, the less self-knowledge they had”.  He says we should start by noticing more rather than reflecting. Notice our behaviour and the results. Interestingly, he believes that questions that start with “what” can be more useful than with, “why”.  A “What’s going on for me?”, or “What would be a different way of thinking about that?”, might give more productive answers. Self awareness takes time and effort and we never stop learning. We need to avoid assuming that we know everything about ourselves and keep an open mind. 

But there is a time and place for “why” questions as we know in coaching. 

“Why is this important to me?” is an essential place to start when we are working with anyone around behaviour change.  We encourage self reflection and knowledge, particularly around identification of values. This gives a strong sense of purpose around the changes that need to be made to achieve their goals, and setting goals also creates more meaning in our lives!  

Back to purpose.  When we start to get a good sense of identity, we can then find ways of living with purpose. We may not find a “calling” but if we can find a purpose, we are on the right track. Health and wellness coaching help create meaning in peoples’ lives.


REFERENCES
Emily Esfahani Smith, The Power of Meaning
Dr. Tasha Eurich, Insight
Eric Barker, Barking up the Wrong Tree

Power of Meaning, Pillar of Belonging Part 1: Is Happiness What We Really Want?


















We often refer to happiness as the holy grail. Surely this is all we would want for our children? If only we could achieve happiness, then it wouldn’t matter about the rest (because the rest would be what was making us happy?) Isn’t this what health and wellness coaching is really all about? Helping people find happiness by living “well”? It’s not quite that simple. Physical and emotional wellness is affected by many factors, but back to the holy grail.

The trouble with happiness is, the more we chase it, the more it will elude us. Although “feeling good” may be better than feeling bad, it does not mean that we are living a “good” life. This question has been researched and debated for many decades and there is now a growing recognition that having a sense of meaning, or choosing to pursue one, ultimately allows us to live fuller – and happier lives! There are times when meaning and happiness can be at odds with each other but the former will sustain us when times are hard.

So where do we get this sense of meaning? The meaning of life has never been revealed but much work has been done to try and establish where people can find meaning. Of course the answers are endless and individual yet, like most complex factors, they fall into broad categories.

Emily Esfahni Smith has written a landmark book called The Power of Meaning and she identifies four “pillars of meaning”. We are going to look at the first:

Belonging – our close relationships which often come from our community are critical for a meaningful life. But not only do our close relationships give us this sense of wellbeing but what has been referred to as “high quality connections” is also important.  Sharing short term high quality interactions with people we love gives us a great sense of meaning but it can be just as important to share those moments with friends, acquaintances and possibly strangers. People give value to others and feel valued themselves when their interaction is empathic, caring and showing mutual regard and respect.

Letting people be seen, heard and acknowledged creates bonds. Compassion lies at the centre of the pillar of belonging. Everything we strive for in our coaching practice supports this pillar. Our very conversations can add to our client’s and our own, sense of meaning.  

So how else can we use this information to add value to our coaching?  By helping and encouraging our clients to seek out opportunities for routines and activities that allow a sense of belonging. By exercising with others, joining groups, group coaching? But also helping them recognize and appreciate where they already “belong”. Often we forget that we have communities around us that if we took the time to acknowledge and promote those communities we would help ourselves, and others!

Reference:  Emily Esfahani Smith, The Power of Meaning.

Coach Profile: Caroline Silveira


About Caroline

Hi, I’m Caroline de Faria Silveira. I live in Brazil and operate my coaching business under my own name, Caroline Silveira.
I am a qualified Level 3 Health and Wellness Coach, Physiotherapist and ThetaHealer. 
I help my clients learn how to be free of anxiety – it is easier and faster than you can imagine!
I help you find a new way of seeing yourself and others, and especially to perceive your body as your greatest ally. 

Getting Started in Business

I am a physiotherapist and since college we have heard this expression: the body speaks! 
But it is always linked to the idea that the body expresses what our mind thinks. Hence comes body language and all the study we can make of it. 
Even with all my experience, I began to ask myself: if the mind can transform the body, can the body transform the mind?
After going through a process of depression in the year 2014, I experienced the importance of body awareness as a fundamental part of a truly healthy lifestyle. 
Since then, I have dedicated myself to spreading the importance of integration between mind and body so that other people can have an abundant quality of life through the realization of their dreams and goals.
I started my business with a Website, a Facebook page and a YouTube Channel only. I decided to record videos twice a week and write a blog regularly as well. 
My videos on YouTube and some advertisements on Facebook brought my firsts clients.

My Niche

I work mainly with anxious people. Most of them are women, 30 to 35 years old, who suffer with insecurity, fear of future, and lack of self-esteem and self-love. 
I love to assist them to discover their strengths and abilities, to change behaviors that provoke stress and to develop new habits to improve their quality of life. 
It is incredible how they have all the answers within then. They only need help to discover it.  

Start-up Challenges 

My first challenge was to give up my former profession (I was Physical Therapist) and work exclusively as Health and Wellness Coach. 
The second one was to be consistent on YouTube and Facebook to attract clients and the third challenge was to focus only in my target market.
In the beginning, I felt alone and weak sometimes. But with discipline, courage, and good advice from experts it was easier to overcome the challenges. 
I am currently getting support in a Master Mind Group and this has been a turning point for me. 
Sharing my ideas and receiving advice from more experienced entrepreneurs has allowed me to make better decisions and avoid many mistakes in my business. 

How my Business Has Grown

I have been in this business for one year and it was very different than I expected. 
I dreamed that clients would easily come to me just because I am a very good professional. Well, I discovered that my effort and persistence are the best ingredients to have clients. 
Having my business has taught me to be strategist and to be patient. Success is coming through consistent work.

Typical Client Outcomes

 Almost all of my clients look for peace and happiness. In their minds, they were not born with these gifts. 
The main outcome for most of them through working with me is to feel they can get control of their actions and be responsible to build the life they want to have. It’s very empowering!
I'm glad every day to be Health and Wellness Coach and to help people to live better lives.

My 3 Biggest Lessons

The 3 biggest lessons I have learned are:
- Firstly, to look for partners. It is easier to go farther when we have people with us. 
- Second, I do not know the answer until I ask the question. It is good to be brave. 
- Third, being optimistic makes me more successful. 

Final Thoughts

As one of our International students, Caroline has built a powerful practice in her home country in an important and growing area of health and wellbeing – anxiety.

Caroline’s business has been built on her parallel study and personal journey. She is truly a role model to her clients and brings an integrative approach to her sessions.

Here are three things I notice about Caroline’s story:

1. Caroline is open, authentic and speaks from the heart 
Honesty and authenticity are two essential parts of building trust and rapport with clients. Caroline’s blog posts and videos clearly demonstrate these important character strengths. They are undoubtedly part of the reason for her success in online marketing.

2.        Caroline works with clients who have a similar story
She openly acknowledges her own struggles with anxiety and has built a business in this field to help people with similar challenges.
Caroline is a credible role model for people who are on this same journey.

3.         She has ongoing support with her business
A key to Caroline’s success has been seeking support from business mentors to avoid mistakes, to be consistent and to make good decisions in her business. 

To learn more about Caroline or connect with her on social media, visit:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carolinesilveiraoficial
You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/c/carolinesilveira
Website:  http://www.carolinesilveira.com.br/
Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/carolinesilveiraoficial/

Boost Business Productivity with Effective Planning








If you’re like most coaches, you find that Monday rolls around and you are busy doing 1000 things to work on your business….along side the ‘other’ things in your life, perhaps another paying job, your kids, and chores.

As the week wears on, you feel scattered and spread thin, unsure of where to spend your energy.
It’s like you’re clutching at straws - doing Instagram here, email there, attending networking meetings and writing blogs. 
Then there’s all the free marketing training and e-books you’re downloading, and the overwhelming load of emails flooding your inbox.
The trouble is, none of it is getting you any traction.

That’s when you find yourself wondering:
How can I get clients to contact me?
How can I reach new people outside the people I know?
How can I make best use of my limited time?

This is where you start.

There are two steps to attracting clients:
1. Plan effectively, and 
2. Be truly productive.

Here’s how it works.

Planning Effectively

What happens when you plan and schedule effectively?
You know exactly how you need to spend your precious work time for most effect.
You have a set marketing schedule to attract a regular stream of clients.
You have set dates that you use to create compelling calls to action for potential new clients e.g., registrations close on X date, join now!
You know when you can schedule enough down time to relax.
You can work in your zone of genius and outsource the stuff you hate.
You can measure your progress by ticking off a master task and priority list

In a busy world, one of the biggest challenges is creating enough space to step back out of ‘doing’ mode, prioritise your work and plan effectively.

But when you do that, you take powerful steps forward and grow your business steadily, purposefully and professionally, attracting new clients and prospects as you go.
As a coach, you know that when you work with clients, it really helps them to zoom out and get perspective on their lives so they can distinguish real priorities from perceived priorities. 
It’s ALSO helpful in your own business.

What gets in the way of this?
Busyness, taking on too much, and lack of priorities.
Here’s how to plan effectively in business.

Using the Eisenhower Principle to Plan

In a 1954 speech, Former US President Dwight D. Eisenhower was onto a clever thing. He said:
“I have two kinds of problems: the urgent, and the important. 
The urgent are not important, and the important are never urgent”.
This statement became the Eisenhower principle, and it’s said to be how the former President organised his workload and priorities.
Time management is about spending your time efficiently and effectively. 
It’s about spending your time doing things that achieve outcomes and goals, rather than someone else’s.
The challenge for most people is that we tend to react to what’s urgent, and spend time firefighting and we spend to little time on what’s really important.

Here’s what the Eisenhow Principle looks like in a diagram.


Here’s an interpretation of what these squares mean.
1. Important + Urgent = Crisis mode. 
There is the unforeseen, and the last minute. 
Example: always rescheduling clients because you double book due to poor planning.

2. Not Important + Urgent = Busy. 
These are the fiddly tasks that are better of delegated, rescheduled or deleted – but you prioritize them ahead of tasks that earn you income or deliver service. 
Example: spending hours answering emails, checking Facebook, updating your website.

3. Important + Not Urgent = Productive. 
These are the tasks that achieve tangible outcomes and goals. You need time to do these creatively, properly and without rush. 
Example: Advertising, planning, connecting with past clients, following up with new leads.

4. Not Important + Not Urgent = Time Wasting. 
These are the menial or fun tasks you do first because it feels like you achieved something, or enjoyed your work. But these tasks block your success.
Example: Tidying your desk, designing next year’s workshop flyer, researching best diaries for 2019, calling a colleague to chat about the weekend.

Where are you currently spending most of YOUR business time?

Here’s an interesting 3-step exercise – next week: 
1. Record your working hours in half hour blocks. 
2. Classify every half hour as 1, 2, 3 or 4 according to the table above.
3. Tally up the time spent in each quadrant.
Ideally, you are spending 90% of your business-related time in the Important but Not Urgent quadrant, so you have time and space to do the important work of building your business in a calm, relaxed and creative way.

Planning Effectively – Next Steps

After you’ve worked out how you currently spend your working week, the next step is to work out:
What are the priority tasks each week? 
These are usually planning, marketing, client sessions and invoicing/paying bills.
Which tasks you can delegate, reschedule or delete?
These are usually administration, detail-focussed tasks, reading emails, social media, research and even blog writing!
After that, it’s a matter at looking at your available time, and scheduling in the priority tasks FIRST.

Be Truly Productive – Next Steps

Being productive doesn’t equate to being busy.
Productivity means that for a given amount of time, you are producing a result.
And the time required to complete any task is simply the time that you allocate for it.
To wrap it up, planning effectively is the #1 thing that facilitates productivity.
Next, you must create focus with effective time management. Here are 3 tips.

Identify Priority Tasks

When you know your priority tasks, you can create priority outcome goals, for example:
1 new Facebook ad posted this week
3 past clients contacted on Thursday
Joint venture proposal developed on Tuesday
One potential joint venture partner contacted on Friday

Use Time Management Techniques

Francesco Cirillo’s Pomodoro Technique is a great approach to help you work in a focused way to get tasks finished in a set time. 

Set Boundaries

There are all sorts of apps that can block internet access, track time, or restrict access on your calendar.
Then there is just the good old fashioned “turn off your phone” approach.

Wrapping It UP

All that said and done, what works best for you in terms of being focussed, productive and organised?
Let us know your tips in the comments below.

Empathy - one size fits all?


Empathy – one size fits all?  
Perhaps not.

We all know what empathy means – a few definitions exist.
Here’s one. “The ability to understand the emotional makeup of other people.  Skill in treating people according to their emotional reactions”.
“Ability to read other people’s cues to their emotional and psychological states.”

There are other factors involved:
Although you may be able to see the world through the other’s eyes, you do not necessarily agree with each person’s perspective, or condone the choices they have made, but you do understand.
As coaches, having empathy is an essential skill.  It allows us to hear unvoiced questions, to anticipate needs, to help people find the right words and the right phrases to express their feelings.  You help give voice to their emotional life.

Sounds straight forward and it’s certainly a desirable strength to have. We also know that empathic people tend to do better in personal and professional relationships and certainly in the helping professions.

What else do we know?  

Empathy is closely connected to “sensing” or “intuiting.”

We know that empathy is different from sympathy which can be somewhat dis empowering as the person receiving it can feel, well, in a worse, maybe “weaker” place than the person sympathizing.  

So why can empathy still be tricky? 
Because too little or too much can cause problems. Some research has shown that there are three distinct types of empathy:
Emotional empathy
Cognitive empathy
Compassion

All three are useful at the right time. Emotional empathy is when our feelings become involved and we often find this happening when someone close to us is experiencing a strong emotion. At times in our coaching, we can verge on being too empathic and our own feelings become a little too strongly present. This can lead to emotional fatigue.

Cognitive empathy is at the other end of the scale – this is when we understand on an intellectual level what someone is feeling.  We will often say, “I understand what you are feeling”.  (Whether we do or not is sometimes questionable.)  This is the kind of empathy that would be appropriate for a health professional who needs to stay a little detached from their client in order to perform their role effectively.

Compassion – is the middle ground.  The difference here is that we want to help.  Coaching with compassion is our goal.  We feel for the person, not with the person.  It has the effect of making us want to help but not to be emotionally “impaired” which may prevent us from helping.  

So finding the right level of empathy is all important for us as health and wellness coaches.  And while we’re at it, self-compassion has its place up there with compassion for others!  If we are unkind and judgmental to ourselves, how can we possibly help others with authenticity?

Financial wellness – a new or an ignored frontier?


Life is never simple, which is why it is so interesting!  Here’s an example. Have you ever had several goals you wanted to achieve, yet at times they seem to conflict with each other?

One case of this that we hear often is from people who want to “follow their passion” (in their professional life), but also want to be financially secure.   Yet their passion may not hold the level of certainly around financial security they require.  

Of course, this applies to many of students who want to study health and wellness coaching, yet are concerned that it may not pay the bills.  When we get a dilemma like this, we can experience tension, stress and a sense of “stuckness” as we struggle with what really amounts to two conflicting values.  So how do we get round this?   We may also experience a sense of guilt or disappointment in our failure to follow our heart.  After all, surely financial “stability” should not be as important as doing what we really want do – living the professional dream?

Yet finance (or fears around lack of finance) is one of the biggest stumbling blocks when it comes to people achieving their goals.

Lea Schodel, a recent graduate, does a lot of work in the field of financial wellness.  She says,

“Money has such a large influence over our day to day lives, our sense of success and self-worth and our overall happiness and wellbeing. Our career choices, our ability to spend time with our family and friends, or to do the things we love, whether we can join a gym or practice yoga, how much we can spend on food, healthcare, self-care and other treatments, the type of neighbourhood we live in, the relationships we have and even our self-esteem are all impacted directly by our relationship with money. 

Our finances play such an integral role in our total wellbeing yet, so often they are ignored, put to one side or handed over to someone else to manage.

The elements of wellness

Image souce:  wellnessutah.com

There are many elements that comprise of our overall wellbeing: Social, Physical, Emotional., Spiritual, Environmental, Occupational, Intellectual and Financial. What is important is to recognise that there are many elements (other than diet and exercise) which contribute to or detract from total wellbeing and we cannot have total wellness unless we pay attention to and seek balance with all elements of wellbeing in our lives.

So how can we align our goals so that we achieve both a career we love and healthy finances? 
This was a question we had to address when we put together our latest training program – the Professional Certificate in Health and Wellness Coaching with Business Pathway (PCBP).  We love helping people learn to coach. And we have recognised the need for support in setting up our own business for some time. We have provided the Passion to Profit program almost as an add-on for people who finished the training and then realised they ill-equipped to actually make money from coaching.

So, we decided that we would combine all our programs and offer an inclusive “journey” that guided people along the path to becoming a proficient and effective health and wellness coach but at the same time, kept their eye on the end game – how they would make this work for them as a business.

To date, we have had a great reception to our PCBP and we can’t wait to work with the people who have enrolled at the start of this year.

View the details on our Professional Certificate program here.

We are also looking forward to Lea’s professional development webinar which she will hold later in the year when she will help our coaches learn how to “talk about the money”.  In this sense, when our clients present finance as the biggest obstacle and which we so often skirt around!  Watch this space.

You can get in touch with Lea at: lea@leaschodel.com

Three Things that Drive Us


The subject of motivation is a long, complex and incredibly interesting one. Even defining what motivation is can be tricky.  As the word's meaning is  derived from the verb,  "to move" it suggests that it is all about action and drive.  Yet, at its purest form, we can also relate it to what gives life meaning, or what we strive for.  Current literature contains some great ideas on what people, in general, really desire.  

There are three elements that keep cropping under different names that seem to be very important. One of them is, the need/drive for:

Control of our own life.  
Sometimes, called self determination, sometimes, autonomy the sense behind is that we really want to be in charge of our own destiny - in the future and on a day to day basis.  When this control is taken away from us, and things go wrong, the "victim mentality" can easily set in.  At least if we make a bad decision, it was our own responsibility.  Self responsibility is what is needed for people to make choices that create good lives for themselves - or ones they have chosen.  

Control is taken away when we are not consulted on important decisions - at work or at home.  We feel we have no say.  When experts keep telling us what to do without taking into account our personal feelings.  When rules are made that we don't understand.  There are lots of times we feel bypassed and this create despondency and a lack of, well, motivation!

How can we regain this feeling of self determination?
By making our own decisions instead of looking to someone else to choose for us. In the area of health and wellness this happens constantly.  We know what we should eat, what we should (or shouldn't) drink, what's good for us, what's bad for us, what to avoid, what rules we should live by in we want to live long and well.  Yet, many people feel dis empowered by this constant stream of advice.  Time spent working out what we want and why we want it will assist us in making choices based on current knowledge, but that work for us.. And if they don't work, then we can can try something else but we are continually taking responsibility for our own lives.  Responsibility simply means, "the ability to respond" and that suggests we have a choice. And that choice gives us what we truly need - a feeling of control.

The second element that really gives us that push to move forward is the need/drive for is Mastery or Competence.

Not only do we like to be self determining creatures but we also like to good at things! If we are not given the opportunity to expand our knowledge and abilities we will often stagnate, become demotivated and at times cease to grow.  This is an inherent characteristic in the human psyche and it is a shame that more employers didn't realise it!  Essentially it means we seek to improve ourselves all the time - Maslow called it "self actualisation". So what does this mean in our quest for better health and wellness?

Two things:
If you are someone who is working towards an outcome, it is important to find something in the plan you have made that gives you that chance to become proficient at at least one of the changes. So say, for example, you have decided to cut out meat for a while; enrolling in a vegetarian cooking class could not only help you stick to the non meat diet, but give you a sense of accomplishment as your cooking skills improve.  This will be more satisfying and help you stick to your plan than if you were simply say, cutting out meat!

As a client or a trainer, we need to have goals to work towards.  Not only do we get a feeling of having done what we said we'd do, we also can get a sense of competence if that goal has some element of challenge in it.  So when we do decide to set a plan for the week, or quarter, try and include something in it that you have to either learn something new or overcome some resistance or fear.  Playing a sport, doing a new class, running a certain distance are all good examples but you can be as creative as you like.

Fact remains -  we like to do things well and be good at something.  We don't have to be the best but we do like to have a degree of proficiency that will feed our sense of self worth and accomplishment.

The Third and biggest drive we have as human beings is the desire to "belong" 

This is also referred to as having a sense of connectedness or, its most basic form - to be loved.  They may seem like very different things but the reality is the underlying emotional need that is being filled is pretty much the same - just diluted a bit.  So what is a sense of connection or connectedness?  Well if we look at the opposite - a sense of isolation - it becomes clear.  We want to feel that we have bonds with people around us.  That someone cares about us;  that we "belong" to a community of some sort.  Whether this is at work, at home, in our neighbourhood, in our gym, or even online (think Facebook), this need is evident.  All our theorists in the area of motivation agree on this important element that drives us and gives us a feeling of life satisfaction and wellbeing.  Without it, we exist alone and it is easy to succumb to depression and sense of lack of meaning.  There may be the rare individual who simply loves his or her own company 24 hours a day,  but they are few and far between.  People require love  and approval to bloom.  

What does this information tell us about our lives?  Do we have groups that we belong to and where we feel accepted and appreciated?  Do we feel part of something bigger than just ourselves?  Do we have people to share our experiences, to support us when we are down and to celebrate with us when we succeed?  If we look closely at our lives, we find that these groups are incredibly important to us.  So as we work towards greater health, is it surprising that support groups, team sports, health club timetables draw us in and often keep us going when times get tough.  We do not exist in a bubble and we derive meaning from our relationship with others.  

Let's keep those groups alive by recognising their importance and connecting with the people in them.

Coach Profile: Rebecca Hannan


Coach Profile Rebecca Hannan

About Rebecca

Hi, I’m Rebecca owner of Kaizen Wellness. I operate my coaching business under my own personal brand name, Rebecca Hannan.

As a coach, I challenge my clients to dream big, and I motivate, guide and nudge you towards being your best self.

I do this by asking great questions, helping you to find out what lights you up and what’s important to you. Together we uncover ways for you to play to your strengths and find the why behind your goals so that you can achieve your most ambitious goals.

Getting Started in Business

I started my business before I did the wellness coaches training.

I had just completed a 135km ultra marathon run in 24 hours. During my training I was working in real estate, I got an injury and had to change my training tactic.

One day when I was doing a deep-water training session I recall thinking “what the hell am I still doing working in a job I’m not passionate about when I’ve invested 20+ years of my life working in an industry I love heart and soul?”

So, while I was in Bali recovering from my run, I set up Kaizen Wellness. My original plan was to go back into the Health and Fitness industry and have the Wellness Coaching as a branch of that.

I’ve always wanted to be a speaker so after I completed Wellness Coaching Australia’s Level 2 training and did some speaking courses, and discovered I loved that.

My business is 18 months young, I got my first client when I was doing my Level 2 training, by attending a women’s circle.

Real Estate taught me how to sell myself and network so I joined speaking groups, chamber of commerce, Holistic practitioners groups and many Facebook groups.

Because of my speaking skills I was asked to be the vice president of the local Chamber of commerce and become a committee member of a Holistic Health Practitioner network.

These groups have helped me build my profile. We live in Margaret River, it’s a small community, I’m a passionate advocate for healthy communities so I also volunteered at the local high school mentoring students which led onto me setting up and establishing a Cape challenge for the Senior school engagement program SSEP.

The program was an enormous success and we are working on it becoming an endorsed program. (This program is a paid program although I don’t charge my usual fee for it as its part of my “for purpose” work).

My Niche

My target market is middle to senior management, corporate teams and individuals. I also have quite a few solopreneurs that come to me for coaching.

I’m very process driven and the people that come to me are enjoy this aspect of my coaching.

I love working with motivated people that challenge me as much as I challenge them. They’re intelligent people that want results – because they’re high achievers it keeps me aiming high and working hard at becoming the very best I can be.   

Start-up Challenges 

At first, starting out was really challenging, frustrating and required lots of hard personal work on myself.

I had to work really hard at getting over myself and out of my own way and owning what I do.

I was working towards what I’m doing now 10 years ago when I closed my fitness business.

But I was full of fear starting out on my own again and found it very difficult to explain what I do. People get real estate, personal training and group fitness. Coaching is more challenging to explain.

I am part of a speaking group where there are highly experienced speakers and coaches.

When they would ask me what my area of expertise was at first, I would bumble my way through. After each meeting I would drive 3 hours home and practice what I would say, listen to podcasts and listen very carefully to how they explained what they did.

Then finally the penny dropped…….after many months and a few tears of frustration!

I stuck with it because it’s been a dream for so long and the thought of going back to my career in real estate left me running for the hills 😊  

Another initial challenge was getting my pricing to a point where I am attracting the right clients – learning that my fee is a filter for who I want to work with.

How I Stay Focused

Coach Profile Rebecca Hannan


I get heaps of help!

I’ve invested heavily in myself this year, for the first 6 months I worked fortnightly with a business coach whose expertise is in Marketing. She helped me to get really clear on what I wanted my brand to represent and my target market.

She is also a speaker and helped me with the first version of my signature story.

I spoke at the International Womens' Day in Margaret River and from that I landed my first corporate coaching program and 3 women signed up to do my coaching programs.

After 6 months I started working with another coach as I wanted to fine tune my signature story and my elevator pitch as it was very salesy, and I’ve decided I don’t want my brand to represent that. I’ve now fine-tuned my signature story and my elevator pitch and they both feel like a fab fit for me.

I’ve designed 4 workshops – of which I’ve only delivered 2 of them so far. The second I launched yesterday. YAY!

I’ve decided to be part of a Mastermind group this year with speakers that I have become friends with. They are highly regarded speakers, play big and will keep me pushing forward.

How my Business Has Grown

Lots!

I have a regular monthly segment on the ABC South West radio, I plan to tour with my workshops next year and would like to host a retreat.

I want to do more keynote speaking next year so I’ve worked hard at establishing relationships with companies and people that can help me with that.

I am on target for achieving the goals I set myself at the beginning of this year.

I got more speaking opportunities than I anticipated and didn’t expect to have a segment on the radio. That came from being brave and willing to share a personal story about myself on air.

The friendships I’ve formed with my new speaking friends is way beyond my expectations. They are so supportive, willing to share their expertise, advice and ideas generously.

Typical Client Outcomes 

Most of my clients say that once the tangled web of confusion is lifted there is a logical sequence on ways to do things that they make work for them.

They feel empowered and inspired to take ownership for wellbeing and life choices. So they can face life’s challenges with confidence and start to understand that self-care and self-love is not selfish. It’s an act of love for those around you.

In my workshops one of the common themes that participants come away with is a sense of “what I’m feeling is normal and there are ways to manage that and change negative thinking patterns to become more empowered.”

This, combined with a seeing new friendships form, is the part that I love.

My 3 Biggest Lessons

The 3 biggest lessons I have learned are:

  • Hang out with people that are more successful, better than you and have an abundance mindset vs scarcity. They’re generous with their advice, knowledge, help and want to see you succeed.
  • Be brave, get over yourself and out of your own way on the other side of your fears and self-doubt is your greatest success.
  • Own who you are and what you do, when you say what you do with confidence people believe in you and your abilities.

Final Thoughts

It has been a gift to see Rebecca grown and shine since she completed her training….and reading her story made me want to hire her as a coach!

Seeing how things have evolved through Rebecca’s story, I noticed a few things.

That just goes to show the power of a really clear, strong brand and message, and how compelling and attractive it is when you use powerful language in your marketing.

1.         Rebecca is determined – and honest

Rebecca has the mental strength and agility to work through the challenges but in an honest, self-reflective way.

2.         She educates herself and seeks help to help build her brand

Rebecca clearly loves learning and personal growth, and credits her success to the amazing people she’s worked with.

It seems as though her work with speaking has created a powerful shift in her business.

3.         Rebecca has put herself out there

Reading her story, it’s clear that Rebecca has done everything she could to actively network and meet as many people as possible, to build connections, establish a profile and start attracting the right kind of leads.

She’s done this even in the very beginning when she was unclear on her message and offering – she persisted, learned and grew.

What an amazing story!

If you want to learn more about coaching career opportunities, register for our free information session on 30/11/17.

To learn more about Rebecca or connect with her on social media, visit:

Facebook:  https://business.facebook.com/coach.rebecca.hannan/

LinkedIn:  www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccahannan

Website:  www.rebeccahannan.com

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/rebecca.hannan/

YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwP9BatX6zdd-Am66R4y4eQ?view_as=public

Can Stress Become a Postive Force in our Lives?


Stress is generally seen as the bad guy in today’s busy world.  The belief that we have not got the resources to handle what is on our plate, creates stress!  Note – the belief.  Stress can make certain health problems worse and there are many downsides of prolonged, untreated stress.  But let’s get back to this idea of “belief.”

Stress is very personal.  What creates pressure and anxiety for one person might be the minimum level of responsibility needed to motivate someone else to get out of bed in the morning!  We are different by nature, experience and genetic make up, but understanding more about what causes stress and how we can control it is a great step to harnessing the energy we can get from this powerful “force”.  And it is a force – the fight or flight response that is created from being under stress also creates energy.  Perhaps it appears as negative energy, but can we turn it into something positive?  How can we make ourselves more “stress-hardy”?  Perhaps by understanding the positive that can come out of the stress response.  The fight or flight response is not the only one that can be activated.

At times, the tend and befriend response comes about with the production of certain hormones such as oxytocin that can be released in situations when we feel the need to reach out to loved ones, or strangers, to comfort them and increase our social contacts. This is often seen after tragic events have hit a community and this very connection reduces stress and can assist in recovery.

But we don’t need extreme events to try and turn our mindsets to believe that we are able to handle stress and in fact, can benefit from it.  Some of the following are useful exercises for us to try out:

  • When we notice our heart rate increase before a stressful event, realize that this is happening so that we have more energy to complete the task and use this energy to perform.
  • Ask yourself, “Are nerves caused by the fact that what you are about to do is really important to you?”  Does this situation have value in your life and therefore provide meaning?
  • When stress rears its head, acknowledge it then turn your focus to the task at hand.
  • Is your stress due to the fact that you are setting unrealistic expectations around what you can complete in a set time (day/week etc.)?  Change your deadlines and to-do list so that they are more realistic and you can think clearly about one or two things instead of feeling overwhelmed by an undoable list.
  • Switch your attention to someone else. Do something kind for another to get out of your head.  You will feel differently about your workload.
  • Ensure that you have good social networks.  Communities support each other and caring creates resilience.
  • If small events stress you, like having to wait on the phone for someone, remind yourself why you are doing this – is there a larger purpose?  Are you gaining information for something that has importance in your life?  
  • Question why you are feeling stress and look for positive aspects.   Is it making you stronger, are you feeling energized?  Are you connecting with others?  Are you feeling alive?
Once we start to see stress as merely a challenge that can help us grow, then we can learn to view it a different way and do just that – grow from it!

If you want to learn more about this interesting area, we have a full module of learning with comprehensive information and tools to use. To learn more about our Understanding Stress for you and your Clients course, CLICK HERE.

References: Healthbeat, October 2017 Harvard Medical School
The Upside of Stress, 2016, Kelly McGonigal

Coach Profile: Narelle King



This month, we’re profiling Narelle King, owner of www.simplyhappy.com.au.

About Narelle

Hi, I’m Narelle I am a mum to two young children, I have a background in education specialising in Physical Education and Social Emotional Learning and I am also a Wellness Coach for Simply Happy.

I help mums prioritise what’s important in their lives so that they can be a more focused, happier mum.

I have a face-to-face program the Mums’ Reboot Program, monthly months Mums Catch-ups and affordable individual one-on-one coaching over the phone at a time that best suits you.

Getting Started in Business

I started my business in January 2017 after finishing level 3 in December 2016.

The first steps were writing a really simple business plan with my vision for my business, stating who my target market was going to be and working out what my unique selling points were.

Social media was my first place to start promoting my business Simply Happy. 

My first version of my website was in May 2017 with a second version launching in September 2017.

I had no experience in marketing at all. I joined various Facebook groups, listened to a lot of business podcasts, read a lot of books, completed a 10-week business/marketing course, digital marketing course, Keeping Video Real course and a FB ads course. 

Finally, I joined a Mastermind for the past 6 months for support, inspiration and motivation.

My Niche

My ideal client is a mum between the ages of 30-45 years with children that are primary school aged.

She has a sense of humour, is respectful, kind maybe just a little too generous with her time and likes to learn new things. She gets overwhelmed by everything she thinks she has to do and finds it hard to prioritise things in her life.

I enjoy working with these women because I was the same as them only a few years ago before I took steps to become a Wellness Coach.

Start-up Challenges 

My challenges this year are tech issues with developing a website, landing pages, FB ads, building an email list and getting engagement on social media through perfecting my copy writing skills.

Being part of a few business groups on Facebook helped with the tech issues.

Enrolling in courses paid and free helped with my knowledge.

How I Stay Focused

The support and encouragement from my Mastermind group has been enormous. They have also encouraged me to set up process now for when my business grows. 

Finally, my husband and my two children have allowed me space and time to grow my business.

There have been long hours spent watching videos on how to do things, scheduling social media content and writing and developing blogs and opt ins for my website. 

How my Business Has Grown

I have a four-week face-to-face group coaching program Mums’ Reboot Program that I have run each term.

I am going to be developing a version of it to put online.

I also have a monthly catch-up with the mums that completed the face-to-face program. I also offer one-on-one coaching for 6 weeks and for a 3 months period.

I also have a physical product a removable decal sticker to help motivate and inspire the mums I work with.

Typical Client Outcomes 

My clients are now prioritising what’s really important to them and have taken steps to improve their life through exercise, nutrition, self-care and career changes.

They are now more focused on how simple life can be, energised, motivated and they prioritise what is really important.

My 3 Biggest Lessons

The 3 biggest lessons I have learned in the past 12 months since starting Simply Happy are:

  1. Just start because the best way to learn anything is by trying.

You don’t need a website to start. I would even just get a really basic two pages to begin. As you grow you will realise what you really need and want. Building an email list is the number 1 thing you need to do otherwise you have no-one to sell to.

  2. Follow your strengths when deciding who to target your business to.

It is so much easier to find content and write copy when you understand what your target market need and want. You don’t need to attract everyone.

 3. The more groups and people you talk to about your business the more opportunities will open up to you. 

This is both online and in your local community.

Final Thoughts

I’ve been following Narelle’s journey over the past 10 months. Here’s what’s really clear to me.

1.         Narelle is determined 
If Narelle is afraid, or lacking in confidence, it doesn’t show on the outside. She gives things a good go, and if they don’t work, she tries something else.

2.         She educates herself, one step at a time, to build her business 
Narelle’s focus on continual learning and reaching out for help have helped her master each step of her business and its growth, including using technology.

She also doesn’t allow fear to keep her stuck – she reaches out for help/support/education from people she respects and trusts.

3.         Narelle learns from experience
One (of the many) things that Narelle does really well is to collect and collate client feedback, and use that to continually tweak her marketing and refine her programs and offers. 

This means she is always speaking her ideal clients’ language and meeting their needs. Simple and effective!

To learn more about Narelle or connect with her on social media, visit:

Website: www.simplyhappy.com.au        

Email: narelle@simplyhappy.com.au    

Linkedin Profile URL: https://www.linkedin.com/in/narelle-king-15024644/

Facebook Page URL: https://www.facebook.com/simplyhappywellnesscoaching

Twitter profile URL: https://twitter.com/simplyhappy_1

Instagram URL: https://www.instagram.com/simplyhappy_1/


 



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