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Power of Meaning, Pillar of Belonging Part 2: What creates Meaning in our lives?


Purpose and meaning are often referred to together, however, having a purpose is just part of what can create “meaning” in our lives. So how do we define “purpose”?  What does that mean exactly?  How can we become more “purposeful”?  

Emily Smith (The Power of Meaning) states that having a broad purpose helps us deal with the more “menial aspects of life”.  So although we have to spend a lot of our time just doing the mundane tasks of our daily routine, if we have a sense of what is behind that, we will be driven by a stronger sense of meaning and less likely to feel that life, well, is like a treadmill! If we’re not sure why we are doing what we’re doing – it can easily lead into depression.

Purpose needs to be defined. There are two aspects to it:
1) We are working towards a stable and far-reaching goal;
2) Somehow we are contributing to the world, in other words, we have a more meaningful purpose than just to please ourselves.

In order to fully define our purpose, we need to do a lot of self-reflection and have a great deal of self knowledge - because our purpose needs to fit our identity; our sense of who we are, what we value, what our strengths are and what is important to us.

Now don’t misunderstand this. Self knowledge does not come from spending long hours thinking about ourselves. In fact, Dr. Tasha Eurich, in his book “Insight” states that “ the more time the participants in a study spent in introspection, the less self-knowledge they had”.  He says we should start by noticing more rather than reflecting. Notice our behaviour and the results. Interestingly, he believes that questions that start with “what” can be more useful than with, “why”.  A “What’s going on for me?”, or “What would be a different way of thinking about that?”, might give more productive answers. Self awareness takes time and effort and we never stop learning. We need to avoid assuming that we know everything about ourselves and keep an open mind. 

But there is a time and place for “why” questions as we know in coaching. 

“Why is this important to me?” is an essential place to start when we are working with anyone around behaviour change.  We encourage self reflection and knowledge, particularly around identification of values. This gives a strong sense of purpose around the changes that need to be made to achieve their goals, and setting goals also creates more meaning in our lives!  

Back to purpose.  When we start to get a good sense of identity, we can then find ways of living with purpose. We may not find a “calling” but if we can find a purpose, we are on the right track. Health and wellness coaching help create meaning in peoples’ lives.


REFERENCES
Emily Esfahani Smith, The Power of Meaning
Dr. Tasha Eurich, Insight
Eric Barker, Barking up the Wrong Tree

Power of Meaning, Pillar of Belonging Part 1: Is Happiness What We Really Want?


















We often refer to happiness as the holy grail. Surely this is all we would want for our children? If only we could achieve happiness, then it wouldn’t matter about the rest (because the rest would be what was making us happy?) Isn’t this what health and wellness coaching is really all about? Helping people find happiness by living “well”? It’s not quite that simple. Physical and emotional wellness is affected by many factors, but back to the holy grail.

The trouble with happiness is, the more we chase it, the more it will elude us. Although “feeling good” may be better than feeling bad, it does not mean that we are living a “good” life. This question has been researched and debated for many decades and there is now a growing recognition that having a sense of meaning, or choosing to pursue one, ultimately allows us to live fuller – and happier lives! There are times when meaning and happiness can be at odds with each other but the former will sustain us when times are hard.

So where do we get this sense of meaning? The meaning of life has never been revealed but much work has been done to try and establish where people can find meaning. Of course the answers are endless and individual yet, like most complex factors, they fall into broad categories.

Emily Esfahni Smith has written a landmark book called The Power of Meaning and she identifies four “pillars of meaning”. We are going to look at the first:

Belonging – our close relationships which often come from our community are critical for a meaningful life. But not only do our close relationships give us this sense of wellbeing but what has been referred to as “high quality connections” is also important.  Sharing short term high quality interactions with people we love gives us a great sense of meaning but it can be just as important to share those moments with friends, acquaintances and possibly strangers. People give value to others and feel valued themselves when their interaction is empathic, caring and showing mutual regard and respect.

Letting people be seen, heard and acknowledged creates bonds. Compassion lies at the centre of the pillar of belonging. Everything we strive for in our coaching practice supports this pillar. Our very conversations can add to our client’s and our own, sense of meaning.  

So how else can we use this information to add value to our coaching?  By helping and encouraging our clients to seek out opportunities for routines and activities that allow a sense of belonging. By exercising with others, joining groups, group coaching? But also helping them recognize and appreciate where they already “belong”. Often we forget that we have communities around us that if we took the time to acknowledge and promote those communities we would help ourselves, and others!

REFERENCE
Emily Esfahani Smith, The Power of Meaning.

Coach Profile: Caroline Silveira


About Caroline

Hi, I’m Caroline de Faria Silveira. I live in Brazil and operate my coaching business under my own name, Caroline Silveira.
I am a qualified Level 3 Health and Wellness Coach, Physiotherapist and ThetaHealer. 
I help my clients learn how to be free of anxiety – it is easier and faster than you can imagine!
I help you find a new way of seeing yourself and others, and especially to perceive your body as your greatest ally. 

Getting Started in Business

I am a physiotherapist and since college we have heard this expression: the body speaks! 
But it is always linked to the idea that the body expresses what our mind thinks. Hence comes body language and all the study we can make of it. 
Even with all my experience, I began to ask myself: if the mind can transform the body, can the body transform the mind?
After going through a process of depression in the year 2014, I experienced the importance of body awareness as a fundamental part of a truly healthy lifestyle. 
Since then, I have dedicated myself to spreading the importance of integration between mind and body so that other people can have an abundant quality of life through the realization of their dreams and goals.
I started my business with a Website, a Facebook page and a YouTube Channel only. I decided to record videos twice a week and write a blog regularly as well. 
My videos on YouTube and some advertisements on Facebook brought my firsts clients.

My Niche

I work mainly with anxious people. Most of them are women, 30 to 35 years old, who suffer with insecurity, fear of future, and lack of self-esteem and self-love. 
I love to assist them to discover their strengths and abilities, to change behaviors that provoke stress and to develop new habits to improve their quality of life. 
It is incredible how they have all the answers within then. They only need help to discover it.  

Start-up Challenges 

My first challenge was to give up my former profession (I was Physical Therapist) and work exclusively as Health and Wellness Coach. 
The second one was to be consistent on YouTube and Facebook to attract clients and the third challenge was to focus only in my target market.
In the beginning, I felt alone and weak sometimes. But with discipline, courage, and good advice from experts it was easier to overcome the challenges. 
I am currently getting support in a Master Mind Group and this has been a turning point for me. 
Sharing my ideas and receiving advice from more experienced entrepreneurs has allowed me to make better decisions and avoid many mistakes in my business. 

How my Business Has Grown

I have been in this business for one year and it was very different than I expected. 
I dreamed that clients would easily come to me just because I am a very good professional. Well, I discovered that my effort and persistence are the best ingredients to have clients. 
Having my business has taught me to be strategist and to be patient. Success is coming through consistent work.

Typical Client Outcomes

 Almost all of my clients look for peace and happiness. In their minds, they were not born with these gifts. 
The main outcome for most of them through working with me is to feel they can get control of their actions and be responsible to build the life they want to have. It’s very empowering!
I'm glad every day to be Health and Wellness Coach and to help people to live better lives.

My 3 Biggest Lessons

The 3 biggest lessons I have learned are:
- Firstly, to look for partners. It is easier to go farther when we have people with us. 
- Second, I do not know the answer until I ask the question. It is good to be brave. 
- Third, being optimistic makes me more successful. 

Final Thoughts

As one of our International students, Caroline has built a powerful practice in her home country in an important and growing area of health and wellbeing – anxiety.

Caroline’s business has been built on her parallel study and personal journey. She is truly a role model to her clients and brings an integrative approach to her sessions.

Here are three things I notice about Caroline’s story:

1. Caroline is open, authentic and speaks from the heart 
Honesty and authenticity are two essential parts of building trust and rapport with clients. Caroline’s blog posts and videos clearly demonstrate these important character strengths. They are undoubtedly part of the reason for her success in online marketing.

2.        Caroline works with clients who have a similar story
She openly acknowledges her own struggles with anxiety and has built a business in this field to help people with similar challenges.
Caroline is a credible role model for people who are on this same journey.

3.         She has ongoing support with her business
A key to Caroline’s success has been seeking support from business mentors to avoid mistakes, to be consistent and to make good decisions in her business. 

To learn more about Caroline or connect with her on social media, visit:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carolinesilveiraoficial
You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/c/carolinesilveira
Website:  http://www.carolinesilveira.com.br/
Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/carolinesilveiraoficial/



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