We always encourage coaches to work with clients to create positive goals that take them in the direction of what they want! This fits with the idea of running towards, rather than away from things in life.
I recently had an interesting conversation with someone who had been at a conference on death and dying, with one of the speakers raising the idea of having a “Reverse Bucket List”. A very strange notion I thought – where does that go?
The “Reverse Bucket List” consists of things that a person no longer wants to do!! Now that might mean saying “no” to a number of onerous tasks that drain energy and take precious time away from doing what we do want to do.
It also might encourage our clients to take a good hard look at what they spend their time on – believing that they enjoy it and yet we come to the realisation that we don’t enjoy it any more!
This type of “bucket list” can actually be very empowering! Yes, it might be more meaningful to us as we get older and realise the value of the years left to us, but I think it’s worth considering and playing around with. It’s really no different from asking, “What do we want more of?”, and “What do we want less of?” Try asking it of yourself and see what comes up!
Happy culling of unwanted and unrewarding activities!